An exercise in Self Love.

Every now and then I call out to all the cells in my body. I sing out to the trillions of cells housed within my body, keeping me alive, and I speak to them. You might think I’m a little crazy but it’s a wild concept to think about. We’re not an individual unit, a single. We’re a collective. And we seem to sit at the top over looking yet not seeing what’s really going on.

What do I say to them? You might ask. 

I tell them I love them. I tell them they’re doing a good job and I thank them. I even picture all these little round cells pausing and looking up at me, and then smiling. They like to be appreciated. For many years they were picked on, abused, told they weren’t good enough, that they were ugly and fat. And that wasn’t from other people, that was from the mind at the top of the tower.

For many years I never knew. I never thought about them. How hard they were working even under the rule of a tyrant. But now, as I recognise myself as a collective, as a team, I give them what I always wanted.

Love. Attention. Kindness. Encouragement. Acceptance.

Isn’t that what we all want?

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Yet so often, we can’t even give that to ourselves. We strive hard to get it from other people yet it always falls short. It never satisfies and we mostly don’t believe it anyway cause it doesn’t match up to our own secret thoughts about ourselves.

But the gold at the end of the rainbow is in knowing we can do it for ourselves. We can stop everything right in this moment and say; I love you, thank you. We can ignite a vibrational shift within our being, into one that is more pleasant to inhabit. But we’ve got to stop thinking it’s out there. We’ve got to stop seeking external gratification, praise and validation, and seek the internal gold.

Or as my wise fellow blogger said; our inner sunshine.

And if you think you don’t know how, or it’s not important I beg to differ. Our ability to love ourselves defines our capacity to give and receive love to others. And if you can’t love yourself or others, and you can’t receive love, then I ask you; what is your purpose for life?

For me it’s all about love. It’s learning how to connect in and be with yourself, and to connect with other people. It’s all a big lesson in thinking we’re separate, and then discovering how to come back to the whole. Discovering we’re One.

And I’m not saying it’s easy. I’m saying it’s important. It’s worthy of our thoughts, attention, focus and effort. It’s worthy enough to ask for help from others, to discuss with friends, to read books about. It’s a truly worthy cause because the cause is you. It’s all of us. And I know we can do it.

I know we can turn our inner hell of judgement, fear and criticism into our own sacred sanctuary, one to be cherished and relished and adored. One we delight in inhabiting, and sink into it’s welcoming company when all goes quiet around us.

By Sharon Cavill

 

 

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A Technique to Discover What Lies Within

This simple technique will only take a minute or two, and will help centre you deeply inside of yourself, with the intention to discover what’s really within you.

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Gaze into the photograph.

Let your eyes wander between what is visible above the surface and then down to the mysterious beauty below the surface.

Breathe in a deep full breath of air through your nose, filling your lungs and expanding your abdomen.

Exhale all of the air through your mouth, as if you’re blowing out smoke from the depths of your body.

Let it go. Let everything go and gaze even deeper into the picture. Let your eyes go blurry and just breathe.

Continue oxygenating your body while your eyes move between what is above the surface to what is down below the water.

Ponder, when you look at the rock visible above the water, do you have any inclination of what may lie beneath?

What beauty is within you, that you are not seeing?

What do you think other’s experience when they encounter you? What do they see?

As you reflect upon these questions begin to imagine a rich world within you.

Let your inner world be reflected back to you through pictures, colours and shapes in your mind, just like those in the picture.

Imagine that world filling you up.

How does it appear?

What does your inner world contain?

Spend the next few moments in wonder of what may be within you, that you’ve been overlooking and not seeing.

What appears when you don’t limit yourself or put yourself down.

Get curious.

It’s not often we allow ourselves to be mesmerised by wonder – especially about ourselves.

 

This minute meditation gets more powerful the more often you do it.

With love and wonder,

Sharon

 

 

 

The Most Powerful Method To Love Yourself

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How do you feel about yourself most of the time? Do you encourage and support yourself? Or are you the first to tell yourself that you’re stupid, or hopeless, or that no-one likes you, or you can’t do anything?

And if you’re the latter – which most people are – it’s okay. That’s all a learned behaviour and it can be unlearned.

It’s just that something happened in our past where we made a decision that we weren’t good enough, or that we were unlovable, or don’t deserve to be loved.

Just because you think these things doesn’t make them true.

And when life gets tough, it’s out limiting thoughts and beliefs about ourselves that rear their ugly head and bring us down.

And that’s why I’m writing this, because you can turn it around. We all can. And it starts with observing our relationship with love.

Do you get frustrated and annoyed with people? Do you find it easy to hate?

Then how can you really expect to be able to love yourself when you’re constantly practicing the opposite?

That’s when it’s time to call in the love!

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And it’s actually easier than you might think to start loving yourself, but the key is to learn to love more in general.

You learn how to do that then it’ll be easy to direct some of that love towards yourself. And once that channel of love is created, more and more will flow through it until one day you’ll forget that self love and self doubt was ever a problem for you.

Sound nice?

Let’s start with the first realisation.

Love is a skill, it’s something that can be improved upon, grown, expanded, and strengthened. Especially when it comes to loving ourselves. The key to learning how to love yourself is in learning how to love, and that means learning how to love anything and everything.

Love the chair that you sit upon.

Love your computer.

Go outside and find things you can love out there.

Love the trees. Love each tree.

Love the grass, love every blade of grass.

Grow love. Practice love.

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Take 1 minute now to list 10 things you love right now. Start small and simple. We know you love your family, your partner, your kids. But this is an exercise to start loving everything (and in turn loving yourself), so start with other things.

Practice loving things you might not normally associate love with.

Love indiscriminately.

Grow Love. Practice Love.

Don’t get to yourself yet, just start with this simple exercise for a few days and see what comes up.

Is it hard? Is it easy?

How do you feel when you do it?

 

Have fun love-generating souls,

until we meet again,

Sharon

 

An Exercise in Raising Consciousness

meditation, breath, love, how to, inspired, inspiring, eileen caddy, psychic, energy, healing, happyI did a powerful meditation of breath last night, which left me feeling so good that I really wanted to share it with you all today. The exercise came about after reading the following inspiring and thought provoking words from Eileen Caddy:

“This raised state of consciousness is in the very air you breathe.”

Imagine for a moment, that all of the air around you is made up of the raised consciousness that you seek. The very air is the energy of love, joy, peace, happiness. Ponder the possibility that we are always surrounded by (and made up of) everything we are seeking to feel. When you have reached some level of awareness of this concept, breathe in.

Inhale love.

Open up to receive the lightest, highest and most expansive energy through your breath.

Fill yourself with it.

As you fill your being with love, joy and anything and everything else that you have been seeking to feel, then pause in the gentle space between breaths.

Bring your awareness to your impending exhale and become aware that with your breath you will share this energy tenfold.

You have the ability to spread love, joy and peace to all others with your breath.

Let yourself become so full of love that you become ready to spill over and with your exhale, share it with all others.

Release, breathing out all of the air from your body.

Smile and know that you are playing your part in raising the consciousness of the world.

 

 

 

Feeling stressed or frustrated? Try this!

Stop for a moment and look at this photo. (Yes this is a real place, not that I have been there but apparently it’s Golden Eye Hotel, St Mary Jamaica – in case you were wondering 🙂 ). But let’s put the details aside for a moment.

Gaze deeply into the photo. Take a big deep breath in and when you exhale, breathe out towards the photo and follow your breath.

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Next imagine yourself in the photo.

Where are you? Are you swimming in the water or standing on the balcony?

Now bring the photo to life. Close your eyes and move around in there.

Feel the water against your body, or the wood against your feet.

Engage your senses. 

Can you hear the sounds of the water, or birds?

Is the air fresh or warm? Can you feel the sun pouring warm golden sunshine onto your head and back?

What do you want to do now you’re here?

You know, you can do anything! 

How do you feel?

Let the water wash your frustration away.

What would it take for you to play? Maybe you want to do a bomb into the water or swing from the trees.

Are you smiling yet?


 

The Big Blocker of Happiness

selfhelp, personal development, help, how to, guilt, whyThere’s something so strong that keeps us stuck in the reality of illusion, pain and struggle.

It holds us to our painful past and prevents us from seeing who we really are and becoming all that we can be.

The big blocker of happiness, keeping us trapped in a painful, hateful and hurtful world is…

GUILT

and it is completely superfluous.

We trick ourselves into thinking GUILT serves a purpose. In that feeling guilty helps us to learn from past mistakes, and prevents us from becoming an outrageous person with no regard or compassion for others.

But really?

When you question the validity of guilt, does it really do these things?

Or does it just make us feel bad. Feel lesser than, not equal to, wrong, terrible, evil.

And when we feel lesser than and crap what do we do from that place?

Do we spring out of bed, buy flowers for our neighbour, connect with our friends, speak up for ourselves at work, dream up a new goal to aim for?

No, we contract and hide away from the world.

Slinking like a shunned creature hiding in a back alley.

It’s purposeless and pointless. And makes us feel bad. We learn our lessons anyway, we don’t need to rub our noses in it.

So if not guilt, then what?

Compassion.

Toward yourself and others.

If you realise that you said or did something (or even just thought something) that may’ve hurt yourself or another, acknowledge it to yourself (and potentially the other person involved) then let it go.

A helpful method of letting it go is to do some self enquiry with compassion (and that’s the important C-word). Ponder for a moment why you might have done/said/thought what you did, and then go even deeper.

What was going on for you at that time, deep within?

Maybe you were wanting attention, or feeling unloved, or deep down you were really calling out a desperate cry for love.

Then tell yourself that you’re okay. Because you are. We all are. And we all do/say/think mean, stupid things….It doesn’t mean that you’re evil, horrible, or stupid.

It’s part of being human.

We all have those same thoughts, we all say things and even think things that we don’t really mean. And you know what? They don’t actually mean anything. They’re not true. They’re not who you really are.

Kindly let it go and move on. Trust that you’ve learnt all you’ve needed and connect back into your heart.

Recognise you are a divine being of love even though sometimes you might feel like you’re hiding your inner evil bitch. Just because you (and everyone else in the world, including me) have certain thoughts or feelings, or say things that are mean, doesn’t actually mean that’s who you are.

 

 

 

Something we can all use!

how to, be happy, success, mindvalley, life, life purposeThe other night I watched an inspiring online video by the go-getter who started the publishing company MindValley, Vishen Lakhiani. In my view MindValley is potentially the new Hay House of our day.

In this video he was talking to an audience about how he built his multi-million dollar company and about what the key difference was, from achieving little to achieving and exceeding all of his goals.

You can watch the video here:

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But that is not what this post is about….

This post is about a word he used that I instantly fell in love with and have been using daily.

The word is:

BLISSIPLINE! 

Or Bliscipline. Which ever floats your boat.

It’s about having discipline to align your thoughts, feelings and actions with what brings you happiness.

For example: eating chocolate right now might be pleasurable but it would make me tired later on. So that is not in alignment with what I really want. What will bring me deeper and more fulfilling happiness and bliss. Alternatively I could eat an apple and do some study. This is in direct alignment with what will bring me the most fulfillment and joy, as well as keep me on track for future happiness, success and fulfillment.

This word is great because it reminds you why you are doing something – or not doing something as it may go. As opposed to the word discipline which unfortunately usually reminds us of feeling deprived or told off.

So add some bliss to your day whilst also sticking with your path of highest joy and success!

 

 

 

 

Sometimes ya gotta laugh

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I thought that maybe we did need to be quiet, reserved and respectful when it came to meditation, healing and spiritual journeys. But the more I have ventured this territory on my own (and my own way) I’ve realised that you don’t have to be quiet, reserved and serious. Well more accurately, I’ve realised that you don’t have to be anything. It’s all up to you – to each of us. And we are all right whatever choose.

Some people like to be serious about it all (life), or about certain aspects of life, and some light-hearted – and they are both right and okay.

So a little while ago I gave myself the permission to be light. While scary at first I started to see that people resonated with this way of approaching spiritual work, meditation and healing, and I still attracted clients and groups of people to work with. And I’m sure that when I let go of even more of the ‘shoulds’ and ‘shouldn’ts’  I still abide by, I’ll attract even more.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Top 5 Tips for Being Unreasonably Happy

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Over the years I have stumbled upon wisdom or experienced realisations which have changed my life. Many of which I have forgotten but some have left a permanent imprint on my life. They have left their mark because they have helped me connect into joy and happiness inside myself, rather than giving me a reason to feel happy which can be much more fleeting.

We all have the capacity to be joyful, light and happy at any moment, without any external stimuli or event. However as we grow up and become adults we forget that happiness doesn’t require a reason.

These are my top five tips for being happy right now, before you’ve changed anything in the external world – like your job, financial situation, lover etc.

1.          Notice likeness over differences.
             This is the most beneficial use of our overused ability to judge other people and ourselves. Hundreds of times in everyday we distinguish how people are different from us, how they are right or wrong, better or worse, what we like or dislike about them. We put ourselves down by comparing ourselves to others and then pump ourselves up by degrading others, when the most beneficial and freeing way to use judgement is to recognise how similar you are. You might start by noticing obvious similarities, and then later on hidden ones. Or you might even just notice that we are all human going about our day doing the best that we can. But even just by giving it a go you will begin to feel that warm and fuzzy feeling in your chest and set yourself free.

2.          Write down all of the things that make you feel really good, and then do something from your list everyday.
This isn’t about what gives you momentary pleasure, it’s about what brings you warm and fuzzy feelings of joy, right through your belly and chest. The things that lift your mood and connect you with your spirit without even trying, and the things that make time feel as though it’s sped up.

3.          Think of others. 
Think about another person, a stranger or someone you know, and ask yourself what you could do for them. It might be as simple as sending them an email about how much they mean to you, or writing a review for their business online, or donating to their charity run. If you can start your day by doing this you are onto a winner. The most successful people I know (and I’m talking about successful in the sense of feeling happy and fulfilled) include doing at least one thing for someone else everyday. It’s a surefire way to pull yourself up and out of victim, poor little old me mode and right into expansive, beaming with love mode!

4.          Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway
Yes this is the title of a book but if we could apply this one little gem then our lives would expand tenfold. The key here is to observe when you shy away from something or say no, whether you are doing it because you are worried or afraid. Once you catch the sneaky bugger in the act and recognise that what you are feeling is fear, then it will become easier to give yourself the extra nudge to say yes instead.

5.         Give up the Need to be Right
Firstly you might start with observing how often you deem yourself right and others wrong. Then spend some time pondering the viewpoint that potentially we are all just walking this planet alike and perhaps none of us really know anything in the way that we think we do. I feel much more free to express myself when I’m not trying to prove that I’m right and conversely that someone else is wrong. And what appears right in one moment, might in some future moment appear ‘wrong’ anyway, so just let it go and we can all be wrong or we can all be right. It doesn’t matter. What could you do differently if you were no longer needing to show others that you are right?

What are your top tips for being happy?

Follow your Happy

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What makes you happiest? 

I regularly reflect upon all of the things which bring me the most enjoyment, fulfillment and joy. A while ago I wrote these things down. Now I refer to this list and add to it, and I ensure I always do at least one or more things from my list everyday.

My list contains things which nourish all parts of me:
Spiritually, Emotionally, Physically and Mentally. 

On this list are things that bring me deep fulfillment such as connecting with friends and family, helping people through sessions, and connecting in with my spirit  guides and angels. And then my list also lists things which nourish me physically such as boxing and walking on the beach. And then it also includes meditation, reading and writing in my journal.

This kind of golden masterlist is a great way to keep you regularly connected into what makes your heart sing and what feeds your soul. 

It’s amazing how quickly we can string too many days together where we are not doing anything that brings us deep fulfillment, joy and happiness.

What is your soul yearning for?

What brings you happiness and joy?

What would it take for you to do one of these things today?