An exercise in Self Love.

Every now and then I call out to all the cells in my body. I sing out to the trillions of cells housed within my body, keeping me alive, and I speak to them. You might think I’m a little crazy but it’s a wild concept to think about. We’re not an individual unit, a single. We’re a collective. And we seem to sit at the top over looking yet not seeing what’s really going on.

What do I say to them? You might ask. 

I tell them I love them. I tell them they’re doing a good job and I thank them. I even picture all these little round cells pausing and looking up at me, and then smiling. They like to be appreciated. For many years they were picked on, abused, told they weren’t good enough, that they were ugly and fat. And that wasn’t from other people, that was from the mind at the top of the tower.

For many years I never knew. I never thought about them. How hard they were working even under the rule of a tyrant. But now, as I recognise myself as a collective, as a team, I give them what I always wanted.

Love. Attention. Kindness. Encouragement. Acceptance.

Isn’t that what we all want?

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Yet so often, we can’t even give that to ourselves. We strive hard to get it from other people yet it always falls short. It never satisfies and we mostly don’t believe it anyway cause it doesn’t match up to our own secret thoughts about ourselves.

But the gold at the end of the rainbow is in knowing we can do it for ourselves. We can stop everything right in this moment and say; I love you, thank you. We can ignite a vibrational shift within our being, into one that is more pleasant to inhabit. But we’ve got to stop thinking it’s out there. We’ve got to stop seeking external gratification, praise and validation, and seek the internal gold.

Or as my wise fellow blogger said; our inner sunshine.

And if you think you don’t know how, or it’s not important I beg to differ. Our ability to love ourselves defines our capacity to give and receive love to others. And if you can’t love yourself or others, and you can’t receive love, then I ask you; what is your purpose for life?

For me it’s all about love. It’s learning how to connect in and be with yourself, and to connect with other people. It’s all a big lesson in thinking we’re separate, and then discovering how to come back to the whole. Discovering we’re One.

And I’m not saying it’s easy. I’m saying it’s important. It’s worthy of our thoughts, attention, focus and effort. It’s worthy enough to ask for help from others, to discuss with friends, to read books about. It’s a truly worthy cause because the cause is you. It’s all of us. And I know we can do it.

I know we can turn our inner hell of judgement, fear and criticism into our own sacred sanctuary, one to be cherished and relished and adored. One we delight in inhabiting, and sink into it’s welcoming company when all goes quiet around us.

By Sharon Cavill

 

 

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What’s your life purpose?

 

Seriously, that question has done my head in for most of my life. And it wasn’t until a couple of years ago that I started to question the whole idea as just that – an idea.

I’d always assumed it was a fact – that each of us have a life’s purpose and when we found it we’d feel fulfilled and happy.life purpose, what is my life purpose, help, love, life, blog, funny, be happy

If only I could find the darn thing!

Throughout my colourful employment history I’ve made many decisions in a response to that question of what is my life’s purpose. I’ve resigned from so many jobs under the depressive thought; ‘surely this can’t be it, this is not my life’s purpose!’

I’ve also embarked on courses and taken jobs all in the hopes that they would fulfill the deep longing, and even deeper more hidden fear that something was missing from my life.

But what I’ve come to realise is the whole idea of your life’s purpose and all the promises wrapped up in those words, is very much like the idea of meeting Mr Right.

When we were young we watched movies and read stories, and basically were instilled with the idea that there was a Mr Right out there (or a Mrs Right) who we’d bump into one day and they’d make everything better. And they’d be perfect. The meeting would be a dream, they would of course sweep me off my feet, and we’d fall instantly in love. There’d never be a drama, bicker or fight, and our life together be everything we’d ever hoped it would – of course, because of them and our picture perfect life together.

However as we grow up (and sometimes out) we come to know love and life aren’t like that. Yes, we can fall in love and even sometimes with the man or woman of our dreams, but often we’re quick to realise that doesn’t mean that they’re perfect. And we’ve also come to realise that we’re not perfect either. And that’s okay.

The issue I’ve found though, is that we haven’t crossed this line of thinking over to other areas, and we haven’t updated our romantic view of our life’s purpose. We still chase the life purpose carrot dangling out, always in front of us and just a little out of reach, that’s going to fix everything and make it all better.

And we’re usually swamped with a barrage of happy faces under facebook posts, and screaming websites of people telling us they’ve found their life purpose and now are living a magical existence… But what we don’t hear, is how their day to day life is still a struggle, or how they’ve found their life purpose  but still feel under appreciated, or are having issues at home. And what they certainly don’t tell you, is that it wasn’t the magic cure-all they’d always thought it would be. (They usually don’t even admit that to themselves).

And that’s the part I want to talk about. The reality of the matter. Throughout my chopping and changing, and obsessing over life purpose and the meaning of life, I’ve been able to find work that does fulfill me, and that satisfies a deep urge to help other people.

However it’s not what makes me happy. And even when I started doing it, life was still hard. I’d still have major ups and downs, I regularly felt overwhelmed, and I still questioned what was the purpose of all of this! That’s largely because I thought it was supposed to make me happy, and it took me a long time to realise that it never could.

So I invite you to be brave and take a reality check. Have you been searching for your life’s purpose and secretly thinking that it’s your answer – that it’ll bring you the happiness and fulfillment you’ve longed for?

It’s okay. We all have. And many people won’t want to let this idea go, but the sooner we do, the closer we come to experiencing everything we’ve longed for. We’ve just been searching for it in the wrong direction.

And if we’re lucky we’ll find things we love doing in this lifetime and that we’re passionate about, and some of us will even be lucky enough to be able to do these things for a living. But these too, like everything outside of ourselves, aren’t what make us happy. They aren’t even what make us feel fulfilled. We do that for ourselves.

And it’s usually not until you’re in your dream job that you start to have the harsh realisation, that it’s not what makes you happy. If you were unhappy before you found your dream job – or ‘life purpose’ – then you’re still going to be unhappy afterwards too (usually once the honeymoon phase wears off).

But there’s a HUGE upside to this, because it means even if you haven’t figured out what you want to do yet, you can make happiness your goal now, and then the rest will follow much more easily. 

If you start to make happiness and fulfillment your goal today, you’ll experience  more joy, more  confidence, and your interests, dreams and goals may even change. And it’s from that place that you’ll be able to discover more of what you want to do with your days, and your life.life purpose, what is my life purpose, how to be happy, happiness, dalai lama, quote, help

Then your job, or finding your life’s purpose, won’t need to fix you. It won’t be responsible for your
happiness. It won’t be able to disappointment or let you down. And that’s incredibly freeing.

That’s when you really begin to experience the reality of knowing you can do anything, because you already feel good. You’re already happy. You’re not looking for your job or your life purpose to make you happy.

With love and happiness,

Sharon

 

 

 

 

Does Your Life Feel Complicated?

complicated life, help, how to, advice, spiritual, wisdomThe only aspect of life we can truly control is our state of being.

And when we master that, everything else falls into place.

But we complicate our existence. 

Correction…

Ego complicates.

Spirit simplifies.

What areas of your life feels complicated and a mess right now? 

Have you let your ego-mind take the reigns?

Do you have hidden drives clouding your judgement in this area – such as money, self-worth, jealousy, pride?

We always know the way out of our problems, and how to reduce the complications and complexities in our lives. And it’s certainly not through lists of pro’s and con’s, or through deep analysis, or through speaking to people about how annoying and wrong other people are.

It’s through doing nothing. Just stopping everything, pausing from your life, and giving a chance for your heart to speak.

Our deeper knowing is always there, but we just have to get out of our heads to give it a chance to be heard.

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Amazing Painting by Karina Llergo

Call on your Soul to speak to you. It’s language is powerful yet subtle, and it usually doesn’t speak in words. Here’s a quick exercise to help you connect into your own wise inner force.

2 Minute Soul Voice Meditation – 

Shift your focus away from everything and everyone in your life, and move it to your heart. Close your eyes, and keep your focus on your heart beating deeply inside of your chest.

Inhale fully. Let your mind rest, without ‘trying’ to silence it.

Exhale. If your attention has drifted, that’s okay. Bring it back to your heart. Can you feel it beating? Breathe into it.

Breathe out.

Feel for your answers.

The light of your Soul shines within you,

and is waiting to be heard. 

Get quiet and curious,

and listen for her.

With love and quiet whispers,

Sharon

 

 

 

 

 

 

How Can Tarot Reading Help You in Your Career?

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Our careers are our means of livelihood. It is our means to provide for our families and ourselves. We have spent years in school preparing for our careers. However, just like in any other aspects of our lives, sometimes we reach a point where we wonder if are we in the right career path, or are we even in the right career field in the first place, or what would be the next step in our career path.

These questions are very important that is why when planning next career steps or even thinking about a career change, we must consider many things, especially those that might get affected by our chosen course of action. Advice from friends, family and colleagues can be of great help. However, if you feel that these advice or answers are not the ones you are looking for, then consulting a career psychic might help you.

Spiritual guidance is sometimes overlooked by most of us. For example, we often associate tarot card readings for seeking answers about trivial things only. However, have you ever realized that if the Tarot cards can help you find a new love or predict future events in your life, it follows then that it can certainly help you with your career?

The tarot card is a very powerful tool that can be used to gain insights about someone’s past, present, and future by way of asking questions. Tarot card reading can help you in many things. Be it solving a mystery, finding love, and even seeking guidance for your career, the tarot can help you. It can help you answer questions regarding your career, questions like “am I in the right career path or what should be my next career move”? In this modern time, spiritual guidance has become very accessible and with the internet, a tarot reading or consultation can now be done over the internet. You can now consult psychic experts, like online tarot readings or any other online psychics, without leaving your home.

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What to Ask a Psychic Reader

Before you consult a psychic and ask for a tarot reading for your career, you must first come up with the potential questions that you will want to ask. The questions must be focused on you and your career, avoid questions about external factors that you have no control over. Do not ask questions like “when will my boss promote me or when will I get a raise?” The psychic and Tarot card will provide a reading specifically for you and not for anyone else that is why it is very important that you focus the question on yourself. This way you will get an accurate reading about your life and career.

Evaluating Your Career

The Tarot cards, as tools for divinity, can give you a closer look the different aspects of your life, thus giving you an opportunity to deeper scrutinize your past career moves and your current situation. Your current situation is the product of your past actions; you can evaluate your previous actions that led to your current position. You might have done something in the past that you believe will have no huge impact on your career, but actually contributed largely to your present career struggles. You can also identify the negative cycle or patterns that you are undergoing in your career and the impact that they are creating in your life. In gaining an access to the general overview of you career, you can learn how to correct your bad habits and formulate a course of action for your future career move.

Career Guidance

When you are deciding between two or options regarding your career, the tarot cards can help you. For example, you have received two equally great job offers, or you have to choose between staying in your current company and pursuing a new employment from another company. How do you know what path will be the the best one for you and your family in the long run? A consultation to a psychic through tarot card reading can help you evaluate these options and weigh on their pros and cons. You will have a picture on how will your future will look like for each of the options. This gives you full control over your career, which will allow you to pick the option that is more aligned with your goals and desires.

Setting Career Goals

The tarot card can be very helpful when setting career goals and finding ways on how to achieve them. Asking the right questions will be the most important part of a tarot reading for career help, as it will help you figure out the things that influences your career. The cards can show you the right actions or changes that you should make to get the results that you want. You might get surprised on how accurate it can be.

 

 

 

What we hide behind our smiles.

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In life we can easily get caught up in the race and forget to check if we’re going in the right direction. Or even if we’re on the right track. And we usually never stop to question whether the track we’re on is the right one for us anyway.

From the time we were little we’re told what we’re meant to do; get a job, fall in love, get married, buy a house, have kids, you know the story…

It’s a formula that’s been handed down to us from people we trust. But when we’re truly honest, are these people that we love and trust really happy? They’re giving us advice because that’s what they think will help us have the best life, but as Bob Dylan would say; these times, they are a changin. 

They’ve made their choices and done the best with what they’ve had, but does that mean we need to follow down the same path?

And what happens at the end of it all, if you’re not happy? What then? Do you ask for a refund if it hasn’t turned out?

Well, don’t worry cos we can stop the steam train whenever we want, we just have to press the bell.

And it’s never too late to press the bell.

So what’s holding you back then?

The biggest challenge for most people is that they’re too scared to be honest. Most people that aren’t happy secretly think there’s no solution for it. They think their plight is futile so they go on pretending, burying the truth deep inside.

They fear that there’s no hope for them so they carry on pretending (without realising everyone else is pretending as well).

But that’s where we’re wrong.

While it might seem that there’s no solution, it only appears that way because the truth of the situation is is hidden from the light of day. We have to accept the truth first, and then our answers come. They might not come right away, but they will come. We have to be brave enough to open the door first, without knowing where it’s leading to.

The universe needs space and time to respond, but it won’t respond at all if there’s no invitation.

Don’t be scared to admit your life hasn’t turned out exactly as you planned. It’s that way for almost every single person. tiger, help, anxiety, wellington, hypnosis, life, relationships, life purpose, help with, how to, healing

It’s time to be the fearless tiger and speak up.

It’s okay that  you’re not happy, it’s a normal feeling to experience. And by admitting it (even just to yourself) you’ve just moved one step closer to feeling better – genuinely better.

With love,

Sharon

PS. if you’d like some help contact me at Waking Life. You never have to go through it alone – that’s what I’m here for. 

 

 

 

The Most Powerful Method To Love Yourself

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How do you feel about yourself most of the time? Do you encourage and support yourself? Or are you the first to tell yourself that you’re stupid, or hopeless, or that no-one likes you, or you can’t do anything?

And if you’re the latter – which most people are – it’s okay. That’s all a learned behaviour and it can be unlearned.

It’s just that something happened in our past where we made a decision that we weren’t good enough, or that we were unlovable, or don’t deserve to be loved.

Just because you think these things doesn’t make them true.

And when life gets tough, it’s out limiting thoughts and beliefs about ourselves that rear their ugly head and bring us down.

And that’s why I’m writing this, because you can turn it around. We all can. And it starts with observing our relationship with love.

Do you get frustrated and annoyed with people? Do you find it easy to hate?

Then how can you really expect to be able to love yourself when you’re constantly practicing the opposite?

That’s when it’s time to call in the love!

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And it’s actually easier than you might think to start loving yourself, but the key is to learn to love more in general.

You learn how to do that then it’ll be easy to direct some of that love towards yourself. And once that channel of love is created, more and more will flow through it until one day you’ll forget that self love and self doubt was ever a problem for you.

Sound nice?

Let’s start with the first realisation.

Love is a skill, it’s something that can be improved upon, grown, expanded, and strengthened. Especially when it comes to loving ourselves. The key to learning how to love yourself is in learning how to love, and that means learning how to love anything and everything.

Love the chair that you sit upon.

Love your computer.

Go outside and find things you can love out there.

Love the trees. Love each tree.

Love the grass, love every blade of grass.

Grow love. Practice love.

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Take 1 minute now to list 10 things you love right now. Start small and simple. We know you love your family, your partner, your kids. But this is an exercise to start loving everything (and in turn loving yourself), so start with other things.

Practice loving things you might not normally associate love with.

Love indiscriminately.

Grow Love. Practice Love.

Don’t get to yourself yet, just start with this simple exercise for a few days and see what comes up.

Is it hard? Is it easy?

How do you feel when you do it?

 

Have fun love-generating souls,

until we meet again,

Sharon

 

An Exercise in Raising Consciousness

meditation, breath, love, how to, inspired, inspiring, eileen caddy, psychic, energy, healing, happyI did a powerful meditation of breath last night, which left me feeling so good that I really wanted to share it with you all today. The exercise came about after reading the following inspiring and thought provoking words from Eileen Caddy:

“This raised state of consciousness is in the very air you breathe.”

Imagine for a moment, that all of the air around you is made up of the raised consciousness that you seek. The very air is the energy of love, joy, peace, happiness. Ponder the possibility that we are always surrounded by (and made up of) everything we are seeking to feel. When you have reached some level of awareness of this concept, breathe in.

Inhale love.

Open up to receive the lightest, highest and most expansive energy through your breath.

Fill yourself with it.

As you fill your being with love, joy and anything and everything else that you have been seeking to feel, then pause in the gentle space between breaths.

Bring your awareness to your impending exhale and become aware that with your breath you will share this energy tenfold.

You have the ability to spread love, joy and peace to all others with your breath.

Let yourself become so full of love that you become ready to spill over and with your exhale, share it with all others.

Release, breathing out all of the air from your body.

Smile and know that you are playing your part in raising the consciousness of the world.

 

 

 

Feeling stressed or frustrated? Try this!

Stop for a moment and look at this photo. (Yes this is a real place, not that I have been there but apparently it’s Golden Eye Hotel, St Mary Jamaica – in case you were wondering 🙂 ). But let’s put the details aside for a moment.

Gaze deeply into the photo. Take a big deep breath in and when you exhale, breathe out towards the photo and follow your breath.

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Next imagine yourself in the photo.

Where are you? Are you swimming in the water or standing on the balcony?

Now bring the photo to life. Close your eyes and move around in there.

Feel the water against your body, or the wood against your feet.

Engage your senses. 

Can you hear the sounds of the water, or birds?

Is the air fresh or warm? Can you feel the sun pouring warm golden sunshine onto your head and back?

What do you want to do now you’re here?

You know, you can do anything! 

How do you feel?

Let the water wash your frustration away.

What would it take for you to play? Maybe you want to do a bomb into the water or swing from the trees.

Are you smiling yet?


 

The Big Blocker of Happiness

selfhelp, personal development, help, how to, guilt, whyThere’s something so strong that keeps us stuck in the reality of illusion, pain and struggle.

It holds us to our painful past and prevents us from seeing who we really are and becoming all that we can be.

The big blocker of happiness, keeping us trapped in a painful, hateful and hurtful world is…

GUILT

and it is completely superfluous.

We trick ourselves into thinking GUILT serves a purpose. In that feeling guilty helps us to learn from past mistakes, and prevents us from becoming an outrageous person with no regard or compassion for others.

But really?

When you question the validity of guilt, does it really do these things?

Or does it just make us feel bad. Feel lesser than, not equal to, wrong, terrible, evil.

And when we feel lesser than and crap what do we do from that place?

Do we spring out of bed, buy flowers for our neighbour, connect with our friends, speak up for ourselves at work, dream up a new goal to aim for?

No, we contract and hide away from the world.

Slinking like a shunned creature hiding in a back alley.

It’s purposeless and pointless. And makes us feel bad. We learn our lessons anyway, we don’t need to rub our noses in it.

So if not guilt, then what?

Compassion.

Toward yourself and others.

If you realise that you said or did something (or even just thought something) that may’ve hurt yourself or another, acknowledge it to yourself (and potentially the other person involved) then let it go.

A helpful method of letting it go is to do some self enquiry with compassion (and that’s the important C-word). Ponder for a moment why you might have done/said/thought what you did, and then go even deeper.

What was going on for you at that time, deep within?

Maybe you were wanting attention, or feeling unloved, or deep down you were really calling out a desperate cry for love.

Then tell yourself that you’re okay. Because you are. We all are. And we all do/say/think mean, stupid things….It doesn’t mean that you’re evil, horrible, or stupid.

It’s part of being human.

We all have those same thoughts, we all say things and even think things that we don’t really mean. And you know what? They don’t actually mean anything. They’re not true. They’re not who you really are.

Kindly let it go and move on. Trust that you’ve learnt all you’ve needed and connect back into your heart.

Recognise you are a divine being of love even though sometimes you might feel like you’re hiding your inner evil bitch. Just because you (and everyone else in the world, including me) have certain thoughts or feelings, or say things that are mean, doesn’t actually mean that’s who you are.

 

 

 

Something we can all use!

how to, be happy, success, mindvalley, life, life purposeThe other night I watched an inspiring online video by the go-getter who started the publishing company MindValley, Vishen Lakhiani. In my view MindValley is potentially the new Hay House of our day.

In this video he was talking to an audience about how he built his multi-million dollar company and about what the key difference was, from achieving little to achieving and exceeding all of his goals.

You can watch the video here:

http://www.mindvalley.com/flow#sthash.L4b93luu.dpbs

But that is not what this post is about….

This post is about a word he used that I instantly fell in love with and have been using daily.

The word is:

BLISSIPLINE! 

Or Bliscipline. Which ever floats your boat.

It’s about having discipline to align your thoughts, feelings and actions with what brings you happiness.

For example: eating chocolate right now might be pleasurable but it would make me tired later on. So that is not in alignment with what I really want. What will bring me deeper and more fulfilling happiness and bliss. Alternatively I could eat an apple and do some study. This is in direct alignment with what will bring me the most fulfillment and joy, as well as keep me on track for future happiness, success and fulfillment.

This word is great because it reminds you why you are doing something – or not doing something as it may go. As opposed to the word discipline which unfortunately usually reminds us of feeling deprived or told off.

So add some bliss to your day whilst also sticking with your path of highest joy and success!