A Lesson From Pushy Patrons

blog, awakening, eckhart tolle, life lessons, ego mind, cafe, ocean, consciousOur interactions with people can be our greatest teachers. And yesterday I was taught a big lesson. I’d taken myself off to a cafe to treat myself to some sacred ‘me time’ with a muffin, tea and a book. I sat on a high table which permitted me a clear view of other patrons in the cafe as well as out to the ocean. It was perfect.

However it wasn’t long until my perfect scenario was quashed. I’d sat at the big centre table which was shared by other people. I was seated in the middle and along came three people who sat opposite me, completely obstructing my view to the ocean.

I became a little peeved, however decided it was time to order. I got up, leaving my book and jacket to mind my spot, and went to order at the counter. Once ordered I strolled back to where I’d been sitting only to find one of the three people had actually moved to a seat that was literally pushed up against mine. There was hardly any room for me now and I felt a little strange that they had done this when I’d gone up to order. I felt like they were crowding me on purpose to push me out. My mind was firing off all sorts of scenarios.

I pushed back (obviously in reactive ego-state) and re-claimed my seat. My arm was literally touching his and I felt his big energy dominating mine. Now I was definitely peeved. If I moved my chair further away from him I would literally be pushed up against a pole and have all my table space taken away with the pole and vase which was on the table. And that wasn’t even the point. I was there first.

After a few uncomfortable minutes I decided I would move, as it dawned on me that I was choosing to stay in a situation that was impeding my enjoyment. It took a lot for me to move, but I did so. Staring down at the table stewing in my own thoughts, I waited for the intruders to apologise, or at least offer a sympathetic smile. No such luck. In fact it was quite the opposite, the man moved and spread out even more, enjoying the extra space he’d gained.

Sitting with nothing but my own thoughts, I breathed. I took stock of what was going on and I remembered an enlightening idea from Eckhart Tolle that teaches us the purpose of relationships (which could be interpreted as all interactions with other people) as being to become conscious. Not for fulfillment, happiness, joy, etc. The only true purpose to seek in relationships is to help highlight areas within ourselves that we are asleep and unconsciously reacting, and then it is our job to bring these areas into the light of our conscious awareness.

That is the function of a conscious relationship.

As I looked up to reflect upon the lesson, I noticed how in moving to the other side of the pole, I again had a view of the ocean. There were also stunning flowers sprouting from the vase on the table which perfectly framed my view. It was beautiful.

It dawned on me that the place where I now sat was ideal, in fact it was more than ideal than what I had chosen for myself moments earlier, and the universe had gifted it to me. I had nearly missed it due to my unwillingness to look past what my ego thought was happening.

The universe had guided me to move places through an interaction with other people, and what it presented to me was something better than what I had chosen for myself (along with the lesson).

This is life. That’s the way the universe works. However, we limit ourselves by attempting to control our lives from the narrow view-point of our own perspective.

If only we would surrender control and resistence to reality, then we could walk with greater ease into potentially a better experience than one we might have envisaged for ourselves.

 

 

Does Your Life Feel Complicated?

complicated life, help, how to, advice, spiritual, wisdomThe only aspect of life we can truly control is our state of being.

And when we master that, everything else falls into place.

But we complicate our existence. 

Correction…

Ego complicates.

Spirit simplifies.

What areas of your life feels complicated and a mess right now? 

Have you let your ego-mind take the reigns?

Do you have hidden drives clouding your judgement in this area – such as money, self-worth, jealousy, pride?

We always know the way out of our problems, and how to reduce the complications and complexities in our lives. And it’s certainly not through lists of pro’s and con’s, or through deep analysis, or through speaking to people about how annoying and wrong other people are.

It’s through doing nothing. Just stopping everything, pausing from your life, and giving a chance for your heart to speak.

Our deeper knowing is always there, but we just have to get out of our heads to give it a chance to be heard.

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Amazing Painting by Karina Llergo

Call on your Soul to speak to you. It’s language is powerful yet subtle, and it usually doesn’t speak in words. Here’s a quick exercise to help you connect into your own wise inner force.

2 Minute Soul Voice Meditation – 

Shift your focus away from everything and everyone in your life, and move it to your heart. Close your eyes, and keep your focus on your heart beating deeply inside of your chest.

Inhale fully. Let your mind rest, without ‘trying’ to silence it.

Exhale. If your attention has drifted, that’s okay. Bring it back to your heart. Can you feel it beating? Breathe into it.

Breathe out.

Feel for your answers.

The light of your Soul shines within you,

and is waiting to be heard. 

Get quiet and curious,

and listen for her.

With love and quiet whispers,

Sharon

 

 

 

 

 

 

What are we?

Let’s not get distracted by thinking we are our harmful ego thoughts.

We are none of these.

When we feel warmth, that is who we are,

when we notice beauty, that is who we are,

when we think a loving thought, that is who we are.

Let’s find ourselves and each other there.

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What to do when you’re in a bad mood. Here’s my list.

how to be happy, high vibration, raise your vibration, eckhart tolle, alan watts, byron katie, heal, happy, The other day I was in a bad mood. Nothing particularly drastic but just grumpy, tired and a little low. I was tired from a big week so instead of wallowing and creating dramatic reasons for my mood, I decided to flip on youtube and watch a video or two on topics which help me feel alive, expansive and energised.

Little by little and without really trying I started to lighten up. I was interested in life again and it really got me thinking, how often do we experience a mood and then create drama within our heads to attach to it? We love to have reasons for everything, and sometimes we feel a certain way for which we may or may not have a reason for, but then we go hunting for a reason.

As Eckhart Tolle informs us, it’s the act of linking a thought with an emotion that traps the emotion inside of us, instead of just letting it pass in natural timing. It’s okay if the reason is glaringly obvious, but it’s when we go hunting for the reason instead of just being okay with however we’re feeling, that problems occur.

Our ego-mind loves to analyse and create drama, so we don’t need to be creating more situations to call on it’s help. It’s all about accepting however you feel and connecting into your spirit, then proceeding from that space.

In light of my experience I thought it would be interesting to compile a list of high vibrational mood raisers!

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  1. Listen to a guided meditation -I know I’m a bit biased with that one…
  2. Watch an enlightening non-egoic video on youtube by people such as Alan Watts, Eckhart Tolle, Byron Katie, Esther Hicks, Bashar, Kryon.
  3. Read passages from A Course in Miracles, Opening Doors Within by Eileen Caddy or Osho (or any book that enlightens and inspires).
  4. Help someone else. (While this might be a struggle if your mood isn’t great, but it’s a sure fire way to snap you out of your internal slump!)
  5. Connect with someone you love through more direct communication like a phone call or in person.
  6. Ask “What can I give right now” – turn your attitude upside down
  7. Get outside, I live right by the beach so I flip my shoes off and sink my feet down into the sand.
  8. Do an Oracle or Tarot card reading to help shift your focus

 

 

What are your top methods to lift yourself up and get you feeling good?

 

 

Listen with your whole body

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Recently I was reminded of how to listen. I know this might sound funny but I had forgotten.

I had moved back into old ways of being and forgotten that, to truly listen to someone you need to listen with your whole body.

It is most common these days to listen with our minds which usually, is not even listening at all.

Its thinking.

Thinking about the next thing to say, thinking about how you look to the person speaking to you, thinking about what they think of you, thinking about what you think of them, thinking about what posts you’ve missed on facebook, thinking about what you’re going to have for dinner… I’m tired even just writing about all the thinking that goes on when we really should be listening.

Echkart Tolle explains it beautifully – to listen with your body. To take the attention away from listening and move into feeling. To receive their words, message, and energy through every cell in your body. To hear through your energy field.

Give it a go the next time someone is talking to you, take a big deep breath in and let your awareness drop down from your head and into your body. Feel your energy opening up to receive their words, feel your heart connecting with their heart, hear as though every pore is opening up to listen. Feel what they are saying.

When I did this everything instantly became more enjoyable. I felt as though I was connecting with this person on a much deeper soul level. I was hanging on every word they were saying and I was hearing so much more than just their words. I really listened. I really heard them. I heard what they were saying with their words and I heart what they were saying without any words, I felt their energy, and I connected to their heart. I felt them. We connected.

I am so happy I have been reminded about how to listen. When was the last time someone really listened to you?

When was the last time you really listened?