A Lesson From Pushy Patrons

blog, awakening, eckhart tolle, life lessons, ego mind, cafe, ocean, consciousOur interactions with people can be our greatest teachers. And yesterday I was taught a big lesson. I’d taken myself off to a cafe to treat myself to some sacred ‘me time’ with a muffin, tea and a book. I sat on a high table which permitted me a clear view of other patrons in the cafe as well as out to the ocean. It was perfect.

However it wasn’t long until my perfect scenario was quashed. I’d sat at the big centre table which was shared by other people. I was seated in the middle and along came three people who sat opposite me, completely obstructing my view to the ocean.

I became a little peeved, however decided it was time to order. I got up, leaving my book and jacket to mind my spot, and went to order at the counter. Once ordered I strolled back to where I’d been sitting only to find one of the three people had actually moved to a seat that was literally pushed up against mine. There was hardly any room for me now and I felt a little strange that they had done this when I’d gone up to order. I felt like they were crowding me on purpose to push me out. My mind was firing off all sorts of scenarios.

I pushed back (obviously in reactive ego-state) and re-claimed my seat. My arm was literally touching his and I felt his big energy dominating mine. Now I was definitely peeved. If I moved my chair further away from him I would literally be pushed up against a pole and have all my table space taken away with the pole and vase which was on the table. And that wasn’t even the point. I was there first.

After a few uncomfortable minutes I decided I would move, as it dawned on me that I was choosing to stay in a situation that was impeding my enjoyment. It took a lot for me to move, but I did so. Staring down at the table stewing in my own thoughts, I waited for the intruders to apologise, or at least offer a sympathetic smile. No such luck. In fact it was quite the opposite, the man moved and spread out even more, enjoying the extra space he’d gained.

Sitting with nothing but my own thoughts, I breathed. I took stock of what was going on and I remembered an enlightening idea from Eckhart Tolle that teaches us the purpose of relationships (which could be interpreted as all interactions with other people) as being to become conscious. Not for fulfillment, happiness, joy, etc. The only true purpose to seek in relationships is to help highlight areas within ourselves that we are asleep and unconsciously reacting, and then it is our job to bring these areas into the light of our conscious awareness.

That is the function of a conscious relationship.

As I looked up to reflect upon the lesson, I noticed how in moving to the other side of the pole, I again had a view of the ocean. There were also stunning flowers sprouting from the vase on the table which perfectly framed my view. It was beautiful.

It dawned on me that the place where I now sat was ideal, in fact it was more than ideal than what I had chosen for myself moments earlier, and the universe had gifted it to me. I had nearly missed it due to my unwillingness to look past what my ego thought was happening.

The universe had guided me to move places through an interaction with other people, and what it presented to me was something better than what I had chosen for myself (along with the lesson).

This is life. That’s the way the universe works. However, we limit ourselves by attempting to control our lives from the narrow view-point of our own perspective.

If only we would surrender control and resistence to reality, then we could walk with greater ease into potentially a better experience than one we might have envisaged for ourselves.

 

 

The night I met me.

Last night in meditation I was bestowed a missing link I’d been overlooking in my healing journey to self love.

The setting was a tranquil lagoon in which I was guided to witness something significant from my recent past. As I gazed down into the water I saw myself rising upward. Yep me, appearing exactly as I do today, however I viewed myself from a different perspective. It was from the eyes of others, and I felt the urge to meet myself and hang out with myself just like you would a new friend.

Realisation after realisation poured through me and I was offered the understanding that loving yourself has an undercurrent that can often be overlooked. The missing facet being that you might love yourself but not necessarily like yourself. For example; you can love members of your family but not want to spend every living moment with them, or similarly a friend that you only enjoy seeing now and again but you love dearly.

The meeting of myself was about liking myself. And I mean really liking myself. self-love-acceptance-awakening-healing-heal-how to, relationships

It was uncharted territory where I befriended myself. I saw who I was as a friend and I liked her.

We hung out and met on so many levels – probably because she is me. But it was like meeting my ultimate soulmate; we enjoyed all the same things!

I saw us hanging out together in my house. I saw us at the beach. I saw us laughing and getting each others jokes. A lot of time passed in an enlightening and blissful meditative trance where time held no meaning, and it was as though I’d been reunitied with my long lost best friend.

And I really, really liked her!

And that was the main realisation, I’d been working on self love for some time now, but forgot about self like. I’d forgotten to like myself in each moment and remember that I want to hang out with me and I enjoy being around me.

If you’ve read this far, then it might be time to ask yourself honestly – if you like you. Do you feel the same about yourself, just like you would a best friend that you can’t see enough of, or your partner whom you adore and always want to be around?

If the answer is no, don’t despair. You’re on the path to healing because you’re beginning to understand where you stand right now. Ask the angels or your spirit guide for assistance, request that they show you how loved you really are. And then ask them to help you discover how to befriend you.

Because when it comes down to it, you’re the one you spend literally all of your time with.

With love,

Sharon

 

 

 

Something gone astray

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a love that is for us?

We remember what we need to do

and say and be and get.

Yet loving us seems too far fetched,

or hard or something bad.

But it isn’t til we’ve gone astray

and become desperate in our days,

that love finds our heart decayed

believed void of any light.

Yet it’s been dimmed due to neglect,

and years spent shunned in shame,

still never let your mind tell you

that it’s too late for love to show.

For it’s love within that knows

it’s been there all along.

And now it’s time to take a hand

and follow down the path,

for where this track leads you to

is bliss bursting from within.

By Sharon Cavill

 

 

 

The Gift Awaits Us.

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The gifts the Earth parades for us,

fall silently far from sight.

All that ails, she’s there to cure,

as she begs to ease the minds of many.

Yet we push and pull and complain away,

and miss the show, the majestic dance,

of wind and rain and water spirits,

each beckoning our pain away.

The over identified persona we use

to push away the hearts of those,

we declare too different to us.

And there we sit hidden within

the walls that confine and limit our mind,

preventing us from ever truly,

meeting ourselves.

By Sharon Cavill

 

Are you afraid of death?

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I know I know, we’re not supposed to talk about it. It’s scary or morbid or whatever. But I like to talk about it and I like to think about it too. And no, I don’t think I’m morbid.

I find it fascinating to imagine that one day I’ll be gone and the world will continue on. People will go about their day, going to work, falling in love, dancing, falling out of love, experiencing life. And I’ll no longer be a part of it.

And do you know why I like to imagine that? 

You might be muttering because I’m a sicko, buuuut it’s actually because it invigorates the hell out of me. It ignites my passion for life because it wakes me up to the fact that one day I’ll no longer be here, and everything else will go on just the same.

Say goodbye to self-doubt, questioning or low-confidence.

In an instant I’m fearless and I remember what I want to do and why. I remember all that is important to me and I make those phone calls to loved ones and friends that I’d been putting off. I sit and write poetry or go for a walk by the sea. I laugh louder and don’t worry about who’s looking. I become free to be me, in my most authentic form because I’ve got nothing to lose. It’s going to end up the same way anyway, so I might as well have fun with it.

But we miss out on this glorious opportunity to really see ourselves and our lives, if we amazing-art-awesome-beautiful-death-afraid-of-dying-reincarnation-what-happens-when-we-die-spirit-keep our fear of death hidden in the shadows.

Usually we’re more afraid of something because it’s been in the shadows, and we’ve never really pondered why we’re afraid. Cos really, when you look at it, how can we be afraid of ourselves dying when we won’t be around once it’s happened anyway? We’ll have passed over.

And I have a feeling the place we’re going to next is going to be a whole lot better than this one anyway, and we’ll laugh that we were all scared and afraid.

From one fearless soul to another,

Sharon

 

 

Why Are We Here?

Has the question ever crossed your mind?

It crosses my mind all the time, and I often wonder how we can go about our day as though everything normal when this question is still unanswered.

What’s the point if we don’t know what the point is?

How can we get up each day and go to work, pay the bills, be a good person and for what? I can’t think about it too hard otherwise my head hurts and I’m left feeling down.

And don’t get me wrong, I’ve thought I’ve found my purpose before, but as the years progress and hopefully so too does my wisdom, life purpose can sometimes get mixed up between something we do while we’re here that makes us feel good and helps people….

Compared with the real question; why the hell are we all here? Not individually, but collectively. I’m not talking about each person’s perceived mission, I’m talking about why billions of us are milling around picking fights with each other and pretending we’ve got it all worked out, when we actually don’t have a bloody clue.

Some people think their purpose is to have children. And I can see how they’ve reached that conclusion. I think that one is about love. We like to think we’ve experienced love but many people haven’t at all. And certainly not unconditional love. So we think having children will invite an experience of greater love into our lives – which surely will bring feelings of fulfillment and YES our life purpose!

But do we really think we’re all here to just create more of ourselves, experience some kind of love, and then just roll the question down to the next generation? That feels a little on repeat for my liking.

But the answer that I’ve stumbled upon in recent years – which so far in my journey, is the only answer which makes any bloody sense to me however mind bending it is; is that we’re not really here.

I know I know, crazy right?

But a while back I had a dream that was so vivid, I was left feeling embarrassed for myself because of it. Although I know feeling embarrassed for myself wasn’t the purpose of the dream, the real purpose I think, was enlightenment.

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I was laying on my bed asleep, dreaming I was having a fight with someone. I remember feeling so angry at them, as they had been so mean to me. I felt the anger ripping right through my body and I could barely contain it as I thought about what they’d said, and how they’d treated me.

As the dream progressed (in which I wasn’t aware I was dreaming) I met up with some friends and talked to them about the mean person. They too became upset for me and agreed the person had been horrible. We joined forces and heatedly barrelled on about how nice I am and questioning, how could someone possibly be so mean to me? 

I felt justified in my anger. 

Then my perspective panned outward, like in a movie where it was zoomed in and then the camera starts moving backwards further and further. I shifted from being in the dream to looking down on myself laying asleep on the bed.

I saw myself sleeping and no doubt, still dreaming. And then, I saw tall beings all around the bed, looking down on me as I slept, in a loving and caring manner. The perspective continued to pan backward, until I caught a glimpse of the whole world.

I saw the universe and in it, I was the only one asleep. 

There were other beings but they were all awake and they were tending to me – the single, solitary sleeper. I realised that I’d been imagining all of the people in the dream scenario.

I’d made up the mean person and then persisted on being angry at them, even going as far as talking about them behind their back and I’d joined forces with other imaginary people to band together in our hate… But it was all me. Just me. I was the only one asleep, and I’d made it all up. 

And these days, that’s all I really know for sure, that there’s a possibility the same scenario is playing out here. I know our lives feel real and hurt sometimes, and even horrific things happen, but they also do in dreams too. And they feel very real until we ‘wake up’. But I tell you, I’m quite keen to wake up again and that time, let it be for real.

With love from one sleepy being,

Sharon

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Channelled Wisdom, but from what Source?

All will come through the art of not-trying. 

I scrambled for my pen, as my eyes opened from meditation.

It is the unwinding of all the wound up parts of yourselves and your lives.

It seemed the messages coming through were for more than just me. I wondered whom or what I’d connected into…

And what if this voice was of yourself? 

It was as though the Being immediately heard my thoughts and was responding with a powerful and thought provoking question.

Would you still share it? Or would you think it lesser than?

Take time to sit with the content and worry less about from whence it came. 

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I heard humming inside of me. Almost as though I was given a moment to contemplate what I had just been proposed with. Then the voice started again…

You are the singer and the song.

You are the writer and the words. 

Let you not shut the gates and minimise what could have been.

That was all for now. The silence returned. As I read back over the words I was surprised by the question that had been put forward. Through my spiritual work I’ve loved to connect into Beings, and I’ve even started channelling, however this was somehow different.

I knew the answer.

If I am honest, I know that I think it is lesser than somehow, if it is from me.

Even though I ‘know’ that we’re all the same, and we are one. (I’ve put ‘know’ in inverted commas because obviously I don’t fully know this yet). A grin crept it’s way onto my cheeks, as I enjoyed being challenged with these questions.

To see yourself as the same being, angel or guide as that which you call out to and seek wisdom from.

Such is the mountain that I climb.

 

With humble love,

Sharon

 

A Repeating Message from The Universe

Last night as I lay between being awake and slumber I received a very strong message.

Focus on what you have. 

It just kept repeating over and over, and I knew exactly what it meant.

I am a spiritual seeker and for quite some time now, I’ve been receiving the message to stop seeking. However, obviously since I’m still graciously being sent the same message in different ways, I haven’t quite got it. I’m struggling with finding a balance between my hunger for more, and letting it all go so I can discover truth within.

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“You Blew Me Away” by Penny Hardy

It seems to be coming to a head as yesterday in my meditation I had a very frustrating experience. I could tell I was pushing, trying and controlling. Wanting connections, seeking bliss, pushing for insight. And they pulled back. They let me sit in my own self created anguish, and boy it was frustrating.

Then right at the end, as I was coming out I witnessed a small round ball of light just sitting there inside of my chest. I couldn’t overly feel it, I just gained an awareness of it.

And it was as if it was crying out for me to sit with it. Not go into it, not expand it. Just sit with it.

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So that is where I’m at. It’s hard to not push forward, but the messages are clear.

Focus on what you have.

What are you overlooking?

What would happen if you ceased to push forward for one day, one hour or even one minute?

Can we ever truly let go? 

Graciously yours,

Sharon

 

What’s your life purpose?

 

Seriously, that question has done my head in for most of my life. And it wasn’t until a couple of years ago that I started to question the whole idea as just that – an idea.

I’d always assumed it was a fact – that each of us have a life’s purpose and when we found it we’d feel fulfilled and happy.life purpose, what is my life purpose, help, love, life, blog, funny, be happy

If only I could find the darn thing!

Throughout my colourful employment history I’ve made many decisions in a response to that question of what is my life’s purpose. I’ve resigned from so many jobs under the depressive thought; ‘surely this can’t be it, this is not my life’s purpose!’

I’ve also embarked on courses and taken jobs all in the hopes that they would fulfill the deep longing, and even deeper more hidden fear that something was missing from my life.

But what I’ve come to realise is the whole idea of your life’s purpose and all the promises wrapped up in those words, is very much like the idea of meeting Mr Right.

When we were young we watched movies and read stories, and basically were instilled with the idea that there was a Mr Right out there (or a Mrs Right) who we’d bump into one day and they’d make everything better. And they’d be perfect. The meeting would be a dream, they would of course sweep me off my feet, and we’d fall instantly in love. There’d never be a drama, bicker or fight, and our life together be everything we’d ever hoped it would – of course, because of them and our picture perfect life together.

However as we grow up (and sometimes out) we come to know love and life aren’t like that. Yes, we can fall in love and even sometimes with the man or woman of our dreams, but often we’re quick to realise that doesn’t mean that they’re perfect. And we’ve also come to realise that we’re not perfect either. And that’s okay.

The issue I’ve found though, is that we haven’t crossed this line of thinking over to other areas, and we haven’t updated our romantic view of our life’s purpose. We still chase the life purpose carrot dangling out, always in front of us and just a little out of reach, that’s going to fix everything and make it all better.

And we’re usually swamped with a barrage of happy faces under facebook posts, and screaming websites of people telling us they’ve found their life purpose and now are living a magical existence… But what we don’t hear, is how their day to day life is still a struggle, or how they’ve found their life purpose  but still feel under appreciated, or are having issues at home. And what they certainly don’t tell you, is that it wasn’t the magic cure-all they’d always thought it would be. (They usually don’t even admit that to themselves).

And that’s the part I want to talk about. The reality of the matter. Throughout my chopping and changing, and obsessing over life purpose and the meaning of life, I’ve been able to find work that does fulfill me, and that satisfies a deep urge to help other people.

However it’s not what makes me happy. And even when I started doing it, life was still hard. I’d still have major ups and downs, I regularly felt overwhelmed, and I still questioned what was the purpose of all of this! That’s largely because I thought it was supposed to make me happy, and it took me a long time to realise that it never could.

So I invite you to be brave and take a reality check. Have you been searching for your life’s purpose and secretly thinking that it’s your answer – that it’ll bring you the happiness and fulfillment you’ve longed for?

It’s okay. We all have. And many people won’t want to let this idea go, but the sooner we do, the closer we come to experiencing everything we’ve longed for. We’ve just been searching for it in the wrong direction.

And if we’re lucky we’ll find things we love doing in this lifetime and that we’re passionate about, and some of us will even be lucky enough to be able to do these things for a living. But these too, like everything outside of ourselves, aren’t what make us happy. They aren’t even what make us feel fulfilled. We do that for ourselves.

And it’s usually not until you’re in your dream job that you start to have the harsh realisation, that it’s not what makes you happy. If you were unhappy before you found your dream job – or ‘life purpose’ – then you’re still going to be unhappy afterwards too (usually once the honeymoon phase wears off).

But there’s a HUGE upside to this, because it means even if you haven’t figured out what you want to do yet, you can make happiness your goal now, and then the rest will follow much more easily. 

If you start to make happiness and fulfillment your goal today, you’ll experience  more joy, more  confidence, and your interests, dreams and goals may even change. And it’s from that place that you’ll be able to discover more of what you want to do with your days, and your life.life purpose, what is my life purpose, how to be happy, happiness, dalai lama, quote, help

Then your job, or finding your life’s purpose, won’t need to fix you. It won’t be responsible for your
happiness. It won’t be able to disappointment or let you down. And that’s incredibly freeing.

That’s when you really begin to experience the reality of knowing you can do anything, because you already feel good. You’re already happy. You’re not looking for your job or your life purpose to make you happy.

With love and happiness,

Sharon

 

 

 

 

What I see in the word Trump.

donald trump, news, politics, love, trump, election, song, healingWhen I see news about Trump, what I actually see is people using him to divide themselves from other human beings – and acting as though it’s him doing it and not them.

I see people using his name to abuse other people, and to be mean, heartless and disconnected, and all the while feeling justified in the cause and effect for which they feel they have played no part.

Let us not be fools walking blindly into the trap woven ever so divinely, so as to be caught in a mirage of yet another reason to separate ourselves from each other. Do not let anyone come between yourself and another, whatever the reason and however justified you feel in doing so.

There was a line from a song I’ll never forget, because it is forever relevant it seems…

What the world needs now is love, sweet love. 

This statement couldn’t be more true, and it’s up to us to uphold. Let go of justification and righteousness for a moment and pull your brothers and sisters closer. Be sure and strong in knowing nothing will get in the way of the grander picture, the truth of reality.

Extend an arm of love to one another and toward ourselves, for it is with compassion and understanding that we stand tall, and not through ridicule – no matter how justified the reason is perceived to be.

With love,

Sharon