How do you feel about yourself most of the time? Do you encourage and support yourself? Or are you the first to tell yourself that you’re stupid, or hopeless, or that no-one likes you, or you can’t do anything?
And if you’re the latter – which most people are – it’s okay. That’s all a learned behaviour and it can be unlearned.
It’s just that something happened in our past where we made a decision that we weren’t good enough, or that we were unlovable, or don’t deserve to be loved.
Just because you think these things doesn’t make them true.
And when life gets tough, it’s out limiting thoughts and beliefs about ourselves that rear their ugly head and bring us down.
And that’s why I’m writing this, because you can turn it around. We all can. And it starts with observing our relationship with love.
Do you get frustrated and annoyed with people? Do you find it easy to hate?
Then how can you really expect to be able to love yourself when you’re constantly practicing the opposite?
That’s when it’s time to call in the love!
And it’s actually easier than you might think to start loving yourself, but the key is to learn to love more in general.
You learn how to do that then it’ll be easy to direct some of that love towards yourself. And once that channel of love is created, more and more will flow through it until one day you’ll forget that self love and self doubt was ever a problem for you.
Let’s start with the first realisation.
Love is a skill, it’s something that can be improved upon, grown, expanded, and strengthened. Especially when it comes to loving ourselves. The key to learning how to love yourself is in learning how to love, and that means learning how to love anything and everything.
Love the chair that you sit upon.
Love your computer.
Go outside and find things you can love out there.
Love the trees. Love each tree.
Love the grass, love every blade of grass.
Grow love. Practice love.
Take 1 minute now to list 10 things you love right now. Start small and simple. We know you love your family, your partner, your kids. But this is an exercise to start loving everything (and in turn loving yourself), so start with other things.
Practice loving things you might not normally associate love with.
Grow Love. Practice Love.
Don’t get to yourself yet, just start with this simple exercise for a few days and see what comes up.
Is it hard? Is it easy?
How do you feel when you do it?
Have fun love-generating souls,
until we meet again,