Feeling stressed or frustrated? Try this!

Stop for a moment and look at this photo. (Yes this is a real place, not that I have been there but apparently it’s Golden Eye Hotel, St Mary Jamaica – in case you were wondering 🙂 ). But let’s put the details aside for a moment.

Gaze deeply into the photo. Take a big deep breath in and when you exhale, breathe out towards the photo and follow your breath.

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Next imagine yourself in the photo.

Where are you? Are you swimming in the water or standing on the balcony?

Now bring the photo to life. Close your eyes and move around in there.

Feel the water against your body, or the wood against your feet.

Engage your senses. 

Can you hear the sounds of the water, or birds?

Is the air fresh or warm? Can you feel the sun pouring warm golden sunshine onto your head and back?

What do you want to do now you’re here?

You know, you can do anything! 

How do you feel?

Let the water wash your frustration away.

What would it take for you to play? Maybe you want to do a bomb into the water or swing from the trees.

Are you smiling yet?


 

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The Big Blocker of Happiness

selfhelp, personal development, help, how to, guilt, whyThere’s something so strong that keeps us stuck in the reality of illusion, pain and struggle.

It holds us to our painful past and prevents us from seeing who we really are and becoming all that we can be.

The big blocker of happiness, keeping us trapped in a painful, hateful and hurtful world is…

GUILT

and it is completely superfluous.

We trick ourselves into thinking GUILT serves a purpose. In that feeling guilty helps us to learn from past mistakes, and prevents us from becoming an outrageous person with no regard or compassion for others.

But really?

When you question the validity of guilt, does it really do these things?

Or does it just make us feel bad. Feel lesser than, not equal to, wrong, terrible, evil.

And when we feel lesser than and crap what do we do from that place?

Do we spring out of bed, buy flowers for our neighbour, connect with our friends, speak up for ourselves at work, dream up a new goal to aim for?

No, we contract and hide away from the world.

Slinking like a shunned creature hiding in a back alley.

It’s purposeless and pointless. And makes us feel bad. We learn our lessons anyway, we don’t need to rub our noses in it.

So if not guilt, then what?

Compassion.

Toward yourself and others.

If you realise that you said or did something (or even just thought something) that may’ve hurt yourself or another, acknowledge it to yourself (and potentially the other person involved) then let it go.

A helpful method of letting it go is to do some self enquiry with compassion (and that’s the important C-word). Ponder for a moment why you might have done/said/thought what you did, and then go even deeper.

What was going on for you at that time, deep within?

Maybe you were wanting attention, or feeling unloved, or deep down you were really calling out a desperate cry for love.

Then tell yourself that you’re okay. Because you are. We all are. And we all do/say/think mean, stupid things….It doesn’t mean that you’re evil, horrible, or stupid.

It’s part of being human.

We all have those same thoughts, we all say things and even think things that we don’t really mean. And you know what? They don’t actually mean anything. They’re not true. They’re not who you really are.

Kindly let it go and move on. Trust that you’ve learnt all you’ve needed and connect back into your heart.

Recognise you are a divine being of love even though sometimes you might feel like you’re hiding your inner evil bitch. Just because you (and everyone else in the world, including me) have certain thoughts or feelings, or say things that are mean, doesn’t actually mean that’s who you are.

 

 

 

Mercury Retro-see ya later!

mercury retrograde, psychic, how to, conflict, relationships, course in miracles, namasteI’ve experienced one of the toughest Mercury Retrogrades in years. A mini tornado ripped through my insides stirring up old depressing thoughts which almost seemed believable. And in the world around me, my relationships were also swept up within a tornado of magnified energy and mini conflicts were blasting off all around me.

Everything felt hard. I started to notice conflict almost everywhere in my life, inside of myself and in my external world and relationships. And after a couple of weeks enduring life, I threw up my hands and declared I’d had enough of everyone and was going to retreat away in my bear cave.

Life felt very hard and very serious. I felt like I wasn’t being heard or I was being heard but I was being misunderstood.

However for all my years on this planet I have learnt one thing. When it seems as though it is everyone else that is crazy or frustrating or aggravating, then there is really only one place to point the finger. And that’s towards yourself.

And that’s when the relief came.

I chilled out for a moment and told myself I love you. I repeated it a few times and breathed into my heart. Then I reminded myself that no matter how real and serious this whole life thing seems, it’s actually not real at all. I had disconnected deeply from what is real. I had disconnected from my soul. (Well I probably hadn’t really, but I was no longer looking in the direction of my soul, as I was rooted in ego thinking and fear based ideas).

enlightened, namaste, reolve conflict, relationships, helpI’m always amazed that no matter how many conflicts have been ignited or turmoil that’s been created it only takes a moment to let it all fall away.

A Course in Miracles would call that The Holy Instant. Which is referring to the idea that it only takes a second to connect back into your true loving soul energy and to see that same loving soul light in all others. Basically for everything to feel whole and good again.

Yogi’s would call this Namaste, which loosely means ‘the divine light in me honours the divine light in you.‘ And through mercury retrograde I certainly wasn’t seeing the divine light in those around me, which also means I wasn’t seeing it in myself.

So let’s stop getting frustrated with other people and bring the awareness back to ourselves.

Ponder for a moment, what if each conflict in your life was created as a mirror of an inner conflict within yourself?

What would that mean if that were true?

Well all else fails and your world crumbles, there is usually nothing else left to do but to look within.

To look within and face yourself. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Something we can all use!

how to, be happy, success, mindvalley, life, life purposeThe other night I watched an inspiring online video by the go-getter who started the publishing company MindValley, Vishen Lakhiani. In my view MindValley is potentially the new Hay House of our day.

In this video he was talking to an audience about how he built his multi-million dollar company and about what the key difference was, from achieving little to achieving and exceeding all of his goals.

You can watch the video here:

http://www.mindvalley.com/flow#sthash.L4b93luu.dpbs

But that is not what this post is about….

This post is about a word he used that I instantly fell in love with and have been using daily.

The word is:

BLISSIPLINE! 

Or Bliscipline. Which ever floats your boat.

It’s about having discipline to align your thoughts, feelings and actions with what brings you happiness.

For example: eating chocolate right now might be pleasurable but it would make me tired later on. So that is not in alignment with what I really want. What will bring me deeper and more fulfilling happiness and bliss. Alternatively I could eat an apple and do some study. This is in direct alignment with what will bring me the most fulfillment and joy, as well as keep me on track for future happiness, success and fulfillment.

This word is great because it reminds you why you are doing something – or not doing something as it may go. As opposed to the word discipline which unfortunately usually reminds us of feeling deprived or told off.

So add some bliss to your day whilst also sticking with your path of highest joy and success!