Make joy your only goal

how to have confidence, joy, be happy, happiness, life, self improvement Imagine for a moment that your only goal in life was to experience and feel joy. And that every other goal, aspiration or dream that you’d ever had came secondary to feeling joy.

What would you be doing right now? Later on today?

What would your life be like?

When I make joy my goal I instantly feel better. I am snapped into the present moment and feel awake and excited about life. I treasure any interaction with another person and I feel good about myself – right now. Not in a future moment when I achieve this or that, when I am successful or have lots of money. I feel bliss now. I am confident and connected to life and what really matters.

And isn’t that the point? When you think about any of your goals or dreams and you start drilling them down what do you find fueling them, right at the bottom? I think most of us would say that happiness is the essence behind most of what we do however we just easily lose site of this and focus all of our attention on the details.

What about when there has been a tragedy in your life, when you’ve experienced that moment of everything coming into perspective – do you remember what you held as important then?

It’s not to say that you should throw away all of your aspirations and just float around basking in joy – although now I say it that sounds like a pretty appealing option. But it’s the affect of finding joy right now: when you make joy your first goal, your priority, your days become supercharged by good feelings, and what results from that is more motivation!

When I focus on joy I feel myself expand, I make a point to connect with other people and I find myself in the flow of life. I have an abundance of confidence, I experience synchronicities left, right and centre, and I achieve a lot more than I ever could have imagined – especially then when I was attempting to motivate myself through negative thoughts and fear.

The only problem I have with making joy my only goal, is forgetting. As soon as I forget my goal it is easy to slip back into old thought patterns where I deem success, money, or external appreciation as a higher goal. Then I start to feel flat, lost and I find  myself clinging to a future moment when I will have time to feel happy…

Close your eyes for a moment and wonder – what would your life be like if joy was your goal? How does that feel?

What would you do right now if joy was your goal?


6 thoughts on “Make joy your only goal

  1. Yes, so true! The message here is exactly the same as what I recently wrote about. I’ve found planning and goal setting a potential trap for me because I’ll get wrapped up in thinking that achieving or obtaining something will lead to happiness instead of realizing it can be found right here right now. I guess I’ve gotten so fed up with a lack of motivation and heavy feelings like guilt that I’m ready to choose joy! 🙂


  2. If joy was my only goal, right now I’d go eat whatever I wanted, go out drinking, then go have sex with a woman, then sleep long into the morning, probably have sex again, then have a great breakfast, then go golfing, then go play poker, then go swimming, then go see a movie, then go jump onto a flight to Hawaii, etc.

    Here’s my only question: Isn’t there more to life than ONLY experiencing joy? I feel that if life was only about experiencing joy, people would ultimately lead to self-destruction.

    I’m a 30-year-old male, healthy and successful, and I feel that if I were to only make joy my goal, I would become fat, lazy, unproductive, unhealthy, and unbalanced.


    1. Hi Pat,
      Love your response to this. I guess the things you’ve mentioned above I would consider bring me pleasure – and joy. Joy, is a deep, full bodied emotion that usually involves feelings of love (love for myself, the wonder of the universe, other people, creatures, nature, and beings). Joy can be experienced when you feel deep within your heart or soul that you have helped another person, or achieved something you originally thought was beyond you. However I believe it isn’t because of these external experiences. The state of being and feelings of joy is something you can encourage and grow inside that doesn’t need anything to happen in your world. It is long lasting and often propels you into a higher state of consciousness. When I feel joy within, then I unconditionally accept all other beings on this planet, no matter what they’ve done in the past. Joy is limitless and not determined only by an external experience, even though it can have a great impact on our life and can impact everything we do.

      Something tells me if you end up being lazy, becoming fat and unproductive that you wouldn’t be feeling joy at all. Thus, you weren’t acting from a place of joy to begin with. Joy expands inviting in more joy. Possibly you would have felt fleeting pleasure and then were left residing in the aftermath of following ego desires.

      Have you experienced the kind of joy I’m referring to? I’m sure you can remember times you’ve felt this way, or if not then there might be a part within you that knows it’s possible.



      1. Thanks for your response Sharon! I have absolutely experienced the joy you’re referring to and honestly feel it constantly, but I guess I don’t think joy can be made a goal for me, but rather, for me joy comes from pursuing a goal. Joy comes from the process. Joy is the process. Growth, improvement, and accomplishment is what gets my blood flowing and is what gets me out of bed in the morning. I love the possibilities each day brings, and how every single day I’m getting better and better and wiser and wiser and stronger and stronger and healthier and healthier and smarter and smarter and more loving and more loving!


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