What Keeps You Stuck?

How to let go, happiness, your past, limiting beliefs, low-confidenceOn Sunday I went into such a deep meditation but then awoke with a jump. As I was waking I was repeating a statement over and over in my head. I haven’t been able to forget that statement and I’d like to share it with you all – as it may hold meaning for you also.

“I let go of the story I tell myself, about me”

I began to see clearly all of the stories I constantly tell myself about me – about who I believe myself to be, what I like or don’t like, what I’m good at or not good at and so on. And then I realised that these are all limitations – and what I term ‘good’ and ‘bad’ stories are all actually just exactly the same. They all just limit me from creating, experiencing and discovering myself in that very moment. Each belief and thought that I hold about myself keeps me from truly experiencing the moment that is actually happening.

Every belief we hold drags the past into the present, and keeps us stuck to re-live life in the same way. We prevent a new way of being from appearing.

So now, whenever I catch myself saying a thought or belief about myself (usually just to me inside my own head) I take this as an opportunity to affirm my choice to the universe – the choice that I am releasing the limitation and restriction I have been placing on myself, by saying: “I let go of the story I tell myself, about me. I let go of the story I tell myself, about me.” Over and over, until I connect back in with the present moment. That statement allows me to let go of the past and let go of the future, it brings me directly into the moment, to finally be present in all it’s glory!

What stories do you tell yourself about you, that keep you comfortable or ‘safe’? What are those statements that you say about yourself that you’re now willing to let go of?


2 thoughts on “What Keeps You Stuck?

  1. Hello Sharon, I have just taken the opportunity to look through your posts and this is the one I find most challenging. You (gently!) ask the most difficult questions about self perception. I am not sure I could even properly begin to answer your challenge without taking some time to consider myself, who I am, what I want to be. I suspect I am not 100% at ease with any of it! You talk about being brought into the moment and letting go of past and future – I’d reflect that back to you and ask, is it not the past that defines who we have become and the future (through our aspirations) that begins to shape who we might be?

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    1. Hello, thank you for posting your thoughts πŸ™‚ For me, what I have done and what I may do in the future actually have nothing to do with who I really am. They are experiences that I choose to undertake, but they are not who I am. They are not me. I’m sure they will certainly shape you, but there is no need to remember them as who you are. I feel like the more we are caught up in our thoughts (especially our thoughts about who we are, what we have done in the past, what we want to do in the future) the more we actually miss the reality of what we are experiencing. We experience the world through our thoughts rather than actually experiencing reality. We are so much more than our thoughts and this includes memories of our past selves and dreams about our future selves. When I did an honest self-observation of my thoughts and ideas – which lasted for sometime (and of course I still do it) I could see that anytime I was thinking about who I am in terms of what I do or what I have done, I was seeking external validation, or to prop myself up internally in some way. It was challenging to drop it but in the paradoxical way that life often leads to, it was exactly what I needed to finally discover who I really am. But I had to drop it first – or at least past of it.

      It has taken me a long time to get past what I thought was me, to a much deeper and more expansive place, where I discovered who I really am. When ‘who I am’ is not defined by anything I’ve done or anything I might do then I am no longer swayed by external responses, acceptance, validation. The more free I am to be me and free to experience the reality of what is the world and other people. I know I still have a way to go, but I know the happiest moments are the ones where I have let go of past and future thinking and let go as much as I can of thought and thinking, and I can just be. These moments are when I see things and hear things that I would have ordinarily missed. That is also when I feel extreme bliss and a deep understanding of why I am really here (my true purpose – which has nothing to do with my work, goals or ambitions) and I feel the greatest elation and the truest fulfillment.

      These realisations have also helped me to be able to truly experience other people, beyond what they do or what they say, even beyond what they think. I can experience who they really are most when I am connected to who I really am.

      Thanks once again for writing, and I look forward to hearing back from you πŸ™‚
      Much love, Sharon


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