I have been radically updating the way I view friends – well the way I view the idea of friends. I have come to see that a big reason so many people feel lonely is because we are constantly blocking the feeling of closeness to other people. And often, we do this because we are merely adhering to the preconceived ideas we hold about relationships, as well as falling into line with what we perceive are the societal norms.
We place a definition onto so many people and the relationships in our lives, and most of the time we aren’t even consciously aware we are doing it. The people at work we often consider work colleagues, people we’ve only just met are acquaintances or even still strangers, some people are friends, some people are good friends, and we may even have some best friends, sisters, brothers, family, partners, lovers, ex-partners/lovers and the list goes on and on. And by placing these definitions on people and our relationships with them we begin to limit them.
But what if we dropped all of that – all of the definitions and ideas? What if each person we encountered in any and all areas of our lives were immediately considered a good friend or a great friend – or even a BEST FRIEND – what do you think your life would be like then?
Imagine some of the people you cross paths with in a day, potentially a shop assistant, someone at the bus stop, your manager at work, someone you meet up with for lunch, then the person/people you come home to, or choose to meet up with or call on the weekend. Close your eyes for a moment and just imagine that each one of these people, and even the people you have no direct contact with, all instantly became dear friends of yours, whom cared for you, only wanted what was best for you, and deep down loved you. Each person was someone that you were excited to see, genuinely interested in what they had to say, that you cared for dearly, and that deep down you loved.
I know personally, when I think like this the whole world opens up! I smile for no reason (or for many reasons:), I easily express myself, I’m courageous, friendly and kind, and I try new things because I no longer require the comfort of ‘going along with a friend’ because everyone is my friend – whether they know it or not! It is easy to go anywhere and do anything, and you have connections literally all over the place – anywhere you go! Your experience of the world and of humanity opens up and expands in limitless proportions, and you feel at home.
Try for today to view everyone you encounter as a dear friend; a person with whom you can easily open up to, someone you can share a warm smile with, someone who knows you. How do you feel when you think in this way?