My initial answer to this question is no. The reason being that people mostly attempt to use other people’s affirmations, saying them to themselves each day and seeing no results. Then they throw the concept of affirmations out the window altogether. This is when affirmations don’t work.
The reason these don’t work is because they have no energy in them – none of your energy anyway. I’m sure they worked very well for the person who wrote them, because they really meant them, they felt them and the words held their energy.
Even if your affirmations sound very similar to typical statements that you’ve heard, they will still be powerful and effective because you have written them. They have emerged from your heart, from you spirit.
This week I am focusing on an affirmation which is personal to me, about discipline. I wish to be more disciplined in my life in order to achieve my dreams. I have recognised that I am often quite relaxed with my approach to work, yet I hold many dreams that I wish to fulfill – which require work! Therefore, my affirmation for this week is:
I am courageously disciplined.
What is your personal affirmation for this week?
Some questions to help:
What would you like to overcome? What do you want more of in your life? What do you want to focus on this week? Which aspect of yourself would like to connect with? What does it feel like when you say your personal affirmation?
It occurred to me recently that I had become that person who repeats that cool thing I did last week, just in case you didn’t hear the first time… The person that once again squeezes into conversation that good deed I did or the idea that I came up with – emphasizing the ‘I’….
I was seeking appreciation and continually feeling unsatisfied with the response. I wasn’t feeling heard or recognised. I was feeling undervalued. I surprised myself when this realisation surfaced within me… And I’m still not quite sure when this started but as I reflected on some of my conversations of late I began to cringe at the sound of my own voice.
That’s when it dawned on me (like a tonne of bricks)… I don’t value myself. If I am seeking external appreciation and not feeling fulfilled when I get it, then it is clear I am seeking this appreciation from the wrong source. You will always be left feeling unfulfilled if you are seeking from the external world that which you have not given yourself internally first.
As soon as I realised this I sat down quietly by myself, I began to let my mind roam free of censorship and began to think about all of the wonderful things I do. I was once again cringing to myself initially but I fought through. As I continued pondering the good things I do they actually started rolling easily out of my head and I felt myself filling up. I was smiling and seeing myself as I’ve always wanted to be seen, and by the person whom I’d always wanted to notice me!
Its okay to value yourself, its okay to realise that you do good in this world, that you do your best and you are a good person. We all make mistakes but we also always do our best with what we have at the time. What have you done lately that you haven’t fully recognised yourself for?
How would you respond if someone asked you right now; Do you love yourself? Sure, um yes… I think… This was my response all those years ago when I was first asked this question. These days my answer is very different.
Now, I respond with a firm YES! A confident answer with the ability to expand if necessary. These days I can explain how I know this and what I mean when I say Yes.
When you ask yourself right now, Do I Love Myself? What is your response?
Potentially you don’t fully understand the question, or you aren’t 100% sure of your answer. Well I have a super quick test for you to find out whether you love yourself or not…
You know when you were younger and you were going out with a boy for the first time (or girl) and you asked any person older than you that would listen – How do you know when you love someone? And do you remember the same frustrating response that everyone would reply back to you? You know because you know….You just know. How infuriating was that?! Until you fell in love. And at this point you knew exactly what they were talking about. And no doubt these days you would respond the exact same way if a keen youngster asked you. Because you know. You know when you know. No ifs, no buts. You can just answer firmly and confidently.
It is exactly the same with loving yourself. You know when you know. And if you don’t know, then you don’t love yourself. Its that simple. If you are having trouble with the question – then you now know. And don’t worry because you’re certainly not alone. Most people out there don’t love themselves. They wouldn’t even know what it meant.